Good morning all,
Its 4:30 in the morning and I cannot sleep because I’ve got a cold that I’m fighting to get rid of. I started this blog almost 2 years ago when I didn’t really know what a blog was. I was going through a very dark time in my life and writing seemed to be a way that I could take what I was learning and share it with the world. I was going through the divorce process and I was depressed about losing my wife. My mind wasa mess and my life was showing signs of it too. As I started the journey to get back on my feet I wrote from my heart lessons that I was learning and implementing in my own life. What was poured out on the page was my real struggles and breakthroughs hidden in the messages you read.
I wrote for months while I was getting better and better and then the day came when I got too busy to write. I wasn’t back. I hadn’t regained everything that I lost, but mentally I was much further down that road. I was working again and I was taking daily actionable steps to move forward. Back then, my goal was to regain everything I had lost. The problem with that thinking is you can’t get everything back the way it was before you lost it.
I am here to tell you though that your life can be better after losing everything you trusted in. When I thought I had it all, the truth was that everything had me. I was a slave to my possessions. I was working myself to the bone to keep it all going.
Fast forward almost 2 years and things are radically different. I did some soul searching and asked myself some hard questions like who am I really? Why do I do what I do? Is this who I want to be in the future? What do I need to do to get there?
As I was asking myself those questions, I looked back at my past and looked for when I was really showing up as the real me. You see I was kind of a fake. I had personas that I put on to protect myself. I was the “nice guy.” I was the “Army Guy.” I was the “bend over backwards to do anything for you guy.” Those are great things to be, but each one served a purpose to create this image of who I thought people wanted me to be. I became a people pleaser. I couldn’t say no to anyone and I was a push over.
Being all of those things served me well until my life fell apart. When I really needed help, the people I helped were absent. In fact some of them turned on me. I gave and gave and gave and when I really needed help I was alone. So, you’re probably wondering if I turned into a real jerk from there. I didn’t, but from this place of being broken and asking myself who am I and who do I want to be I found the real me hiding inside wondering when was I going to get to come out. I enjoyed helping people. It’s part of why I was a people pleaser, but the other part is that I loved to give and to help and to help people grow. So as I was rediscovering myself I realized what I wanted to do with the rest of my life.
I decided that i wanted to be a life coach. I searched for almost a year before finding just the right school to attend. I finished my coaching program and got certified as a life and health coach in February 2017. It took me another 4 months, but then I was able to launch my business and start impacting lives one on one on a daily basis.
I wouldn’t go back now and change the details of my life that brought me through some of the darkest times I ever faced because out of those trials I discovered myself. Out of those trials I found my true passion. Out of those trials I found my mission in life and out of those trials I found the most wonderful woman I’ve ever met who shares the very same passions I do to help those who need help.
If you want to go to my new website and check out what I do now, I will give you a free coaching session for contacting me. In our time together, you’ll find out what you want, what’s stopping you or holding you back from getting there and what is your best next step forward.
Thank you for reading my blog over the past year. I don’t take it lightly.
You can reach me at my new sight at www.healthcoachb.com. I’m looking forward to seeing you there