About the author

My name is Chris. I’m in my 40’s and I’ve had some amazing adventures in my life. I wanted to tell you a little bit about myself for a few reasons.

1. It’s not easy to talk about myself. I don’t open up much about me.

2. I have a story to tell that I hope inspires you to never quit.

3. The theme of the blog has personally touched my life and I want to share that with you.

I don’t want to go back to the day I was born and recap my entire life, but I want to highlight a few stories so you can get to know me.

Before my life really got started, my mom contemplated aborting me. On my aunt’s deathbed in hospice, she shared a story with me that changed my life forever.  She told me how my mom came to her as a teenage pregnant mother and asked her about aborting the child. My aunt gave the best advice. She told her, you could always give the baby up for adoption, but if you abort it, you can never take back the regret that may come with that decision. I knew in that moment that I needed to figure out what my purpose was in life and try to fulfill it.

I was in the army at that time and so, I decided that God wanted me to be the best Soldier I could be. I took this new sense of purpose and used it to challenge myself to strive harder, go longer, and be all that I could be. You know the slogan. I was the epitome of a good Soldier. I worked hard, got promoted as quickly as you could. I made each and every promotion like clockwork. As my mom would later tell me when I made my last promotion, “You done good.”

I thought that was my purpose in life was being a good Soldier. My problem was that I had attached who I was to what I did. I was a Soldier.  When I retired from the military, I lost my identity.  I had wrapped myself up so tight in what I’d did that I no longer had a sense of purpose. I was just going through the motions.

I got what I thought was a good job, put my head down and just survived. At this point, I really wasn’t living any more. Every day was on repeat. I hated my job and I hated life. I did a good job of hiding it, but inside I was empty.

Christmas Eve 2014, my life took a turn for the worst. My 20 year marriage crumbled and fell apart and I found myself broken and shattered. In an instant, I became a single dad with no hope and no future.

The journey of the next 2+ years played out here in my blog. I went through a lot of depression in the beginning dealing with my failed marriage and the loss associated with that. It took me several months to let go and move on with my life. A year before going through all my struggles with my marriage, I asked God, “How can I do something I really want to do and get paid to do it?”  That question started me on a journey to challenge everything I thought I knew and every limitation I had placed on myself throughout my life.

As I was coming out of my depression, I had this passion to want to help others.  I wanted to help people shortcut the challenges they were facing in life and find the fastest way out of the shadow of the valley of death.  I wanted to teach you how I did it.  I read my bible, listened to messages on YouTube, read books, prayed and asked God for guidance and tried to figure out what direction and purpose he really had for my life.  It was time to have a fresh start.  I kept hearing God say to me to be a life coach.  I spent months researching what a life coach was, what they did, how they did it, how they got paid.  I found out how to get trained and certified.

While all that research was going on, I started this blog.  At that time in my life, I was still a mess.  I made a quality decision that I wasn’t going to stay that way.  I started writing what was on my heart and what I was living out in my daily life and as I was sharing these messages with you, my life was getting back on track.  I stepped into a constant state of transformation.

2015 for me was a year of experimentation.  I learned how to build a website, start a YouTube channel, shoot and edit videos, customize marketing using google ads and facebook ads.

2016 was a year of growth.  I started this blog 1 year ago.  I went back to school and got certified as a health coach.  I pressed into areas of my life that I avoided in the past.  I let go of self limiting beliefs and decided that I was going to try anything that I had been afraid of in the past.  I learned to cook.  I started shooting and posting videos on facebook to inspire people to step out and try what they were afraid of. I implemented what I was learning about health and nutrition and gained 10 lbs of muscle, lost 15 lbs of fat and got down to 15% body fat.  I decided that I was enough and it didn’t matter what limitations I may actually have.  It mattered what limitations I placed on myself.

2017 has been about launching, taking back what the devil stole from me and seeing lives changed through my coaching and through the work that God has done in my and my life.  I launched my health coaching business in the last 30 days.  I have been giving public talks on health and nutrition and I’ve been coaching clients with much success. I’m excited because these open doors are also giving me a chance to give back by continuing to blog.

I finally realized my purpose in this life and that is to influence you to step out, step up and try to become the best version of yourself you possibly can be.  My purpose is to reach you for Jesus, to reflect him to you.  My purpose is to fill myself up so that I can pour Jesus out to you through these pages, through facebook posts, through face to face interactions, through life and health coaching and through public speaking.

Faith begins where the will of God is known and I want you to know that you are priceless.  God redeemed you from going to hell by paying the price with himself.  You could never pay that price, but Jesus did and that means that you are priceless.  God says that you are fearfully and wonderfully made.  I want you to challenge yourself by first accepting Jesus as your Lord and Savior, then I want you to challenge yourself to learn and grow by renewing your mind with the word of God.  Lastly, I want you to transform who you are now into the person you are capable of becoming by stepping out and taking action.

I recently heard Pastor Ivan Tate say, “God has some of your miracles hidden in the places you are afraid to go.”  I have learned this first hand through out my life.  When I decided to do a task that I was afraid to do, I learned and grew and got better and when I did step out, God met me there and blessed me.  I want him to bless you too.  Step out.  Go for the gusto.  Be willing to try and fail.  It’s ok.  You can do this.

What’s next?  You’ll just have to wait and see.

Thank you for reading my blog.

Chris

 

Don’t let your dream die inside you!

I want you to ask yourself these questions right now and if necessary, don’t proceed any further until you can answer them with clarity.

What is your dream?  Do you have a dream that you had as a child to do something significant in this life?  Did you let go of that dream and throw it away or stuff it down so deep that you thought it could never happen?  Do you want to resurrect that dream and attempt to make it a reality?

Thank you for taking time to look within yourself and see that you still have hopes and dreams hidden in that shell.  You still have hopes and dreams that you would love to see as a reality in your life.  Some times, we may feel like life has passed us by or that we are too old, too weak, too frail, too broke, too whatever the excuse is.  Excuses are just what we tell ourselves so we don’t have to put in the effort to see if our dreams can become reality.

Two years ago, I thought all my hopes and dreams of a grand future were gone forever.  I was a wreck and a mess and I saw no hope of every getting back to a place of living a life that I really enjoyed.  I was broken and shattered.  This was the best place to start to rebuild.  I got to have a do over in my life.  The rules were gone.  The expectations were gone.  The canvas was now empty and I could paint on it whatever picture I chose.

At that time, I really didn’t know what the future held.  I just knew that something had to change.  I was either going to fail miserably, or succeed amazingly.  I started by just getting on my knees and crying out to God and telling him that I was tired of trying to be in control of my life, because I was failing at it.  I told him that I would give my life to him and let him shape me in whatever way he wanted.

A year prior to that, I said out loud one day, “God, how can I get paid to do something I am really passionate about?”  This question was stirring in me and I just couldn’t let it go.  You see, when I look back at my life, I have done some really amazing things and I have had some great adventures, but most of that was because I chose to do what someone else influenced me to do.  I joined the Army National Guard because my stepdad recommended it.  I became a medic because my grandma was in healthcare.  I became an engineer because my boss kept telling me I had potential and he could see that I’d be good at that.  I learned how to be a construction engineer in the army because my ex wife wanted to build a home (at a discount).  You see, I was chasing everyone else’s dreams and expectations for my life.  I finally stopped and asked God how I could do something I really wanted to do.

From that day forward, life went downhill fast.  My marriage ended, I became a single father, and I was trying desperately to figure out this new way of living.  I had to learn to be mom and dad and I had to learn to do what my ex wife was doing for the household.  Life was a mess, but I didn’t give up.  As I started asking God for direction, I spent time in prayer, reading my bible, and watching or listening to ministers who I trusted.   Those messages and the word became the inspiration for writing this blog.  This blog became the inspiration for me to step out and take chances by faith in what God said in his word about my life.  God had a plan for me that was greater than I could have imagined.

I set out to find out how I could become a life coach.  I set out on a journey to help people who were struggling like I was.  I set out to change the world for good in whatever way I could.  I eventually found the right school, completed my courseware and have been coaching clients for a few months now.  It has been so amazing and rewarding, but that’s not all.  There is more.

Back to my dream.  Around 15 years old, I had these day dreams of becoming a public speaker some day.  I would think about this and get energized and see this bright and happy future where I was standing on stage motivating people to make positive changes in their lives.  I was motivating them to step into who they really could become.  I had some significant setbacks in my life shortly after that.  I stuffed that dream down inside and thought it was just that, a dream.

As I was going through the coaching program, that dream started to come back to the surface and get stronger and stronger.  I have since stepped out and started speaking publicly.  I have had several speeches to date and I have more on my calendar for next month.  I love to motivate people to make positive changes and step into what could be.  I love to help them figure out how to make those dreams come true and I love to be there with them as they walk that journey to accomplish what they set out to do.  It is so rewarding.

If you have a dream that you have let go of and think that it’s time to go after your dream, I can help you unlock what’s stopping you or holding you back.  I’d love to help. Email me at info@chris-buckley.net

I hope this inspired you to go for your dreams.

Renewing your mind = Transforming your life

Good morning all,

Are you where you want to be or where you expected to be at this point in your life?  If not, what are you willing to do about it?  The reason that I even started this blog was to inspire you to change the direction of your life if it was heading in the wrong direction.  I wanted to share what I was doing to overcome my personal struggles and what I was doing to overcome in life.

What happens when we start renewing our mind?  Either we get puffed up with knowledge or we take action and change.  I want you to have the latter.  I want you to be inspired to step up and step into the areas you fear.  Philippians 4:13 says I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me and it also says in 2 Timothy 1:7, that God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, and of love and of a sound mind.  God does not want you to be afraid.  He wants you to go out and conquer the world in a good way.  He wants you to use your influence to lead others to him.

In the past year, my life has undergone a significant shift or transformation because of my relationship with God, his guidance in his word, and renewing my mind, which renewed my belief in myself.  He gave me the courage to step out in faith and take action towards some lifelong dreams that I had let go of and thought were gone forever.  He gave me the confidence that I could still do what he created me to do and it wasn’t too late to try.

I stepped out and went back to school to become a life and health coach. I implemented the material I was learning on myself and saw great results in my health, nutrition, finances, relationships, and work performance.  After practicing on myself, I took practice clients through the courseware and saw significant changes in them too.  They lost weight, got better jobs, got promotions, had relationships repaired, learned how to develop new relationships and developed new habits and new beliefs in themselves.  They were transformed too.  Today, they have different habits, different beliefs, and different outcomes than they had before.  It is amazing what God can do by changing just one life.  Will you let him do that for you?

I had a childhood dream of becoming a public speaker, yet I was paralyzed to take action.  As I continued this journey to change, God worked on me and worked on my self limiting beliefs to eradicate them.  As he did that, I got more courage to step out in faith.  Tomorrow morning, I will be speaking to a group of 65 employees from our city.  I’m excited and feel so blessed that God opened this opportunity for me to live a life that I dreamed about when I was 15.

Thank you all for reading my blog.  You inspire me to keep writing.  I hope to be more consistent in my writing, sharing with all of you what you can do to overcome in this life.

 

chris

Stinking Thinking

When I started writing this blog, I was a mess emotionally.  I was in the process of getting divorced and my world had been turned upside down.  I had stinking thinking.  I was stuck in my head spending most of my days having a pity party and wondering why God would let this happen to me.

I needed a check up from the neck up and I knew it.  The bible says that we renew our mind on God’s word, So that’s what I did.  I spent time every day reading my bible and watching messages from ministers I trusted.  I was bing filled with an abundance of God’s word and messages.  My knowledge grew, my confidence grew.  I knew what God wanted for my life and he started positioning my life for something better.  Each step I took in the year that I have been writing was a step closer to victory, a step closer to my hopes and dreams.

By reading the bible and applying what I was learning to my life, I was changing and growing into someone that I always wanted to be, but didn’t know it was possible.  I was learning to be a doer of the word and not just a hearer only.  First, you must be born again.  That is, you must accept the free gift of salvation in Jesus Christ.  He paid the price for your sins so that you could be forgiven and set free.  All you have to do to be saved, is repeat the following prayer.

Jesus, I am a sinner.  I have made mistakes in my life.  I ask for your forgiveness and I repent and turn away from doing them.  I know that you paid the price for my sin by dying on the cross and going to hell for me.  I know God raised you from the dead.  I ask you to come into my heart and live on the inside of me.

It is very simple yet profound to ask Jesus into your heart.  It will be the absolute best thing you have ever done.

Once you have asked Jesus into your heart, you will notice that everything changes in your world.  You will feel freer.  It will fill like a burden has been lifted off your shoulders.  Also, when you read your bible, it will come alive and verses that didn’t make sense before will suddenly makes sense.

Renew your mind with God’s word.  Bathe your mind in the word of God today and see your life transformed

Can’t steer a parked car

Too much knowledge puffs one up.  When you know a lot, two problems can exist.  First, you can get proud or arrogant and need to be right all the time.  Second, you can get paralyzed and take no action.  I want to focus on the latter today.

Since starting this blog, I have gone through a lot of transformation.  God has been working on me to get rid of some self limiting beliefs about that weren’t serving me and weren’t serving him.  This was painful sometimes and other times, it was such a relief.  I had put myself and God into boxes that I could control and I stopped trusting God to do amazing things in my life.

Ok, so how do I go from getting too much knowledge and taking no action to being transformed?  I’m glad you asked.  For many years in my Christian walk, I went to church, I learned my bible, and I learned what God said about me and what he wanted for me in my life.  The problem was, that I did not take action.  I was paralyzed because I knew all these things that God wanted me to do, but I wasn’t doing any of them.  I wasn’t taking action.

If you take a pitcher of water and pour it into a cup, naturally at some point the excess water spills out and goes everywhere.  This is what should naturally happen when we read the bible and follow what God says to do in his word.  I was very afraid of people and I was shy.  I couldn’t tell someone about the love of Jesus because I was stuck.  I wasn’t taking any actions.  I was like the dead sea in Israel.  It is fed by the ocean, but it has no outlet, so everything in it is dead.

So what happened to change that for me?  I got divorced.  Besides my relationship with God, my marriage was the one stable thing in my life that I could count on.  When that ended, I was lost and I was searching to figure out why.  Through the process of getting to the lowest of lows in my life, I broke out of the mold.  I started to take action and to change who I thought I was.  I decided that inaction was not serving me well at all.

This blog started at a time in my life when I was hurting and life looked really terrible from the inside and out.  Here’s what happened, I knew that God said to go into all the world and preach the Gospel.  At that time, I couldn’t afford to even drive to the next town to share the Gospel.  God gave me the idea to start this blog.  It was an action step, a step of faith, but it was ACTION.  When I started, I didn’t know what to write about.  I didn’t know if anyone would read it.  I didn’t know if anyone would even like it, but I finally let go of caring what others thought of me.  You see, I have no right to know what you think of me because you don’t know me and you may have a skewed view of who you think I am.  I could let your opinions stop me from doing what I’m supposed to be doing.  I can’t let you do that.

I love to use the analogy of steering a parked car because so many people can identify with that.  The car has to be moving to be steered, otherwise, your just shifting the tires back and forth.  You see, God wants you to step out of your comfort zone today and take steps of faith.  He wants you to take action.  For someone reading this blog, he has been waiting years for you to take action.  Today is the day.  It is the day that you can let go of your fears and take action.  When we worry about what could be or what might be, we limit ourselves to finding out what would have been.  In the words of that Disney song “Let it Go.”  Step out today and see what amazing opportunities await you.